Loyal JW's are punished when family members & friends leave the organization.
The Watchtower forbids them from associating with anyone who leaves.
Jehovah's Witnesses And Apostates.
Jehovah's Witnesses who leave the organization are labeled 'apostates'. Many are angry about wasting their time and money serving an organization that let them down. They are hurt and that is understandable.
In addition, after they leave, close friends and relatives shun excommunicated Jehovah's Witnesses (with rare exceptions).
Disfellowshipped persons are not treated with the same love non-believers are treated. If they publicly tell others why they left, they are treated as 'God's enemies'. The reasoning is that they 'knew the truth', they left 'God's organization', and they chose to go out into a world dominated by Satan the Devil.
The WT says they are expelling those who are 'wicked' as Paul commanded in 1 Cor 5:13, but critics disagree. The vast majority are not 'wicked'. They merely disagree with the some rules of the WT such as not celebrating holidays, birthdays, Mother's Day, having a blood transfusion, attending another church, etc. ... The secret Elder's manual 'Shepherd the Flock of God' 2010, gives most of the reasons for disfellowshipping.
Although JW's believe that apostates slander God's name (Jehovah) when they say anything negative about the WT, the good name of those who leave is also slandered. When someone is disfellowshipped, JW's assume they are 'wicked' but in fact most are not. Even if they are, Jesus told us not to judge because God is kind to the 'ungrateful and wicked'. Therefore JW's judicial committiees and disfellowshipping is a rejection of Christ. Luke 6:27-41
Certainly, critics say that both the organization and some Jehovah's Witnesses who leave are not following the instructions of Jesus to 'love your enemies'. Luke 6:35
However, contrary to what Jehovah's Witnesses are taught to believe, not everyone who leaves and exposes deception is bitter with an axe to grind. Many have found Jesus and follow his word about loving their neighbors even if such persons are hard to deal with.
The way to help people who leave the organization and our dear friends at the Watchtower is to show them a new perspective
based on the love Jesus taught. Jesus is the only path to eternal life.
'Sometimes I want to ask God why he allows any religion to assume his authority and cause so much emotional pain and suffering when he could do something about it. But then I'm afraid he might ask me the same question.' Anonymous