Have you heard that 'knowledge is power' and that 'the truth shall set you free'? Well it's true. If you want happiness, you must take back your power.
The first step in finding happiness is to admit you have a problem. Whether you're disfellowshipped or not, if you can admit that your beliefs still controls how you feel, you're admitting that you're still in an emotional trapped. That's ok. Don't panic. Help is all around you. All you need to do is ask for it.
Now is the time to set yourself free by asking for help.
Remember. This is not a physical trap. It's an emotional one. Obviously you can physically leave at any time. But your mind takes your beliefs and memories with you. Breaking free from emotional pain means being open to new beliefs and experiences. It means asking good questions. It means expecting God to give you answers. It means actively seeking new beliefs. It means changing your beliefs as needed and abandoning beliefs that no longer bring you happiness.
So go ahead. It's not easy to do this yourself. Sometimes it's impossible. Get help. Admit that you need help. Don't hide the fact that you just left the Jehovah's Witnesses. There's nothing to be embarrassed about.
Where can you find help freeing yourself from this emotional nightmare? Asking for help could mean listening to self help cds from nightingale conant or your local public library. It could mean reading all the books written by former members of Jehovah's Witnesses. It could mean carefully considering every article on this website. Or it could mean asking other people for help.
Don't be shy. Ask for help if you need it. Worldly people are smart and they want to help. The way people of all religions love their God is by helping their neighbors who are in pain, just like the good samaritan did in the Bible. Some will even offer their time for free. If you can't afford professional psychologists, ministers of almost any church would be more than happy to talk with you. You usually don't need to go to their church, but if you find someone who is making a difference in your life, you'll probably want to attend their church and offer a donation depending on how much you can afford.
If you can't afford to pay, don't be embarrassed. Churches need money to survive, but their purpose to is to help people. They don't turn people away because they don't have money. No one will look down upon you. If you can't afford to put anything in the collection basket, it's ok. No one will judge you. Some churches will actually give money to needy families.
When you go looking for help, don't judge people and their religions. The organization leads people to believe that every religion except theirs is part of Satan's doomed wicked system of things. Watchtower Sept 1989 That simply is not true. Good hearted, loving, kind, and non judgmental individuals thrive in all religions, - Christian and non Christian, even though no one is perfect. We find imperfect people in all churches, even the JW's.
Love people of all faiths with all your heart like God does, and they will love you in the same way. Have compassion for all people, and you can find happiness beyond what you ever thought possible. Luke 6:35-37