Yes. Leaving is not a problem as far as the organization is concerned. No one will stalk you, kidnap you and drag you back, or even plead for you to come back. So what's the problem?
The problem is the mental and emotional aspects of leaving.
We find it very interesting that people who leave and are now labeled 'apostates', are still supporting the organization and trying to prove other apostates are wrong when they say anything negative about the Jehovah's Witnesses.
Newly disfellowshipped Jehovah's Witnesses still talk about their old friends who are 'in the truth'. And they'll say they 'left the truth' instead of they left the Jehovah's Witnesses. They don't understand how their theocratic language is controlling them even though they are no longer members.
Change your words you used as a Jehovah's Witness and change your life. See Mind Control
You may not fully appreciate how difficult it is to leave the Jehovah's Witnesses unless you've done it. Here's what people feel when they leave.
Here are the steps most Witnesses go through before they finally leave.
Of course, no one in their right mind would want to make friends with the Devil. What we're saying is this. Don't look to any religion to find perfect people. Such a religion doesn't exist. Satan tempts everyone. He tempts JW's and people of all religions.
People of all religions have a choice. They can be examples of the love Jesus taught. Or they can choose hate, angry, rage, and the unhappiness that comes from rejecting God. Remember this. We can leave God, but he never leaves us. We create our own reality based on what we think about most of the time. You can learn to control your own mind and take back your power. Or you can continue to believe in lies that aren't true.
Here's a fact. Leaving the organization can be hard or it can be extremely hard. It all depends on you.
Some Jehovah's Witnesses do not do enough research before and after they leave. They start to miss their friends, family, and life as a Jehovah's Witness. Instead of researching, reading, and searching for answers outside the organization, they spend their free time thinking about how uncomfortable they feel.
You left your religion for a reason. Instead of dwelling on how miserable you feel, you can choose to think about how good it feels to be free. Now, perhaps the first time in your life, you can have a direct relationship with God, with no middle man. You can now talk directly to God in prayer and listen to the answers he gives you, instead of being forced to accept what you know isn't true.
Knowledge is power. Ask questions and look for answers with an open mind. You will find 'the truth' everywhere. All you have to do is look for it. You won't find it in any one religion. The belief that only one religon has 'the truth' and all others are 'false', is a lie. It is a lie that keeps you firmly attached to a religion that says you are 'free' but keeps you in bondage with assumptions that are not true at all.
Jehovah's Witnesses isolate themselves from the religious and political affairs of the world. They don't like celebrating holidays. They don't like politics. They're not comfortable associating with people unless they're Witnesses. They still believe the Watchtower is the best religion even though they disagree with some things. And they believe that all other religions are 'false' and controlled by Satan the Devil.
The only way to solve the problem as far as some former Jehovah's Witnesses are concerned is to apply for 'reinstatement'. Critics say that the mind control Jehovah's Witnesses receive every day from literature, other JW's, and their own self talk causes them to believe that the Watchtower is the only path to God. This is not true. It is a lie.
JW's think that all other belief systems are wrong and disgusting in the eyes of their God Jehovah. These ideas do not end when they get disfellowshipped. Thus some return to the organization believing it's the lesser of two evils. i.e. the world is controlled by the Devil and the Watchtower is 'much better than anything else out there' even though secretly they disagree with doctrines.
Now is the best time to take back your power. Common sense tells us that happiness comes from God. Unhappiness, anger, hate, emotional pain, stress, and suffering comes from alienating ourselves from our Creator. If you're not happy now, align yourself directly with God in prayer and meditation. Ask for love. Ask to be more loving of others. Then feel God's intense love for you no matter what you might have done or said in the past. God loves you and everything he created.
If you've left the JW's, pray to God for understanding and wisdom. Then read every single article on this website. Don't read for the purpose of proving us wrong and the JW's right. Read with the goal of finding the happiness you're looking for. Here are three excellent articles to start with.
The Bible says that narrow is the path leading to life and few are the ones finding it. Matthew 7:14. Not everyone figures out the truth about their religion when they leave.
Because they believe the real world is controlled by the Devil, some Jehovah's Witnesses do not do enough research with an open mind. If they do read something, they quickly try to prove the author wrong. We've spoken to Jehovah's Witnesses who are totally disillusioned by their religion, but whether they leave or not, they still believe there's no other religion with 'the truth'. They still believe it's the only path to salvation even though they disagree with important issues.
For a Jehovah's Witness to recover from their experience, they need help. Even if they no longer believe in what they were taught, the emotional pain is still there. Critics say that because of mind control, they are are drawn towards their old religion in the same way that flys in the darkness are attracted to a bug zapper.
Why do some JW's return to a religion that brought them so much pain? Because we take words, thoughts, and memories with us everywhere we go. The power of the mind continues to control disfellowshipped JW's after they leave. Getting help is difficult when one believes that 'worldly wisdom' comes from Satan, and the only place to find the truth is in Watchtower literature. Good people don't want to make friends with the Devil. So to some Jehovah's Witnesses, the Watchtower starts to look better and better every day.
Critics also say it's difficult to recover from mind control. As long as you believe that religious mind control doesn't exist in the organization, you won't get help. If you don't believe you have a problem, you don't go looking for a solution.
JW's believe they are the only ones in spiritual paradise and the entire world lives in darkness without any hope. It can take a long time to know in your heart that the real world is normal and the world of Jehovah's Witnesses is not. The world of Jehovah's Witnesses is a fantasy world much like Dorothy and the Wizard of Oz. Dreams can appear very real. You will swear they are real, - until you wake up and know it was only a dream. If you're a Jehovah's Witness, do your research, - and not just a couple hours. It could take you thousands of hours of study to turn your life around especially if you were born into that religion or joined at an early age.
So where do you go when you believe like a Jehovah's Witness but are no longer a member? You can't ask anyone outside the organization to help you and you can't ask anyone inside the organization for help with your emotional problems, - depression, sadness, anger, anxiety, etc.
Of course the above statement is totally incorrect but we're trying to illustrate how a Jehovah's Witness thinks when they leave. This is how we thought when we left the organization.
Certainly JW's can apply for reinstatement into their religion to get some relief from their depression. However there was a reason they left in the first place. Thus going back to the organization is the lesser of two evils. Swearing you believe in everything when you really don't isn't the path to true happiness. Going back to the organization just leaves you in a lesser state of depression. As long as you're not free, you'll never be truly happy.
The other option is asking professionals and worldly people to help with your emotional issues. Unfortunately many Jehovah's Witnesses do not take this course. They either live with their unhappiness or they go back to the organization. Neither one of those options is healthy.
God wants you to be free and happy. You won't find what you're looking for by going back to the organization.
Do not despair. If you're a Jehovah's Witness, you're not alone. There's lots of help. The information on this website can set you free forever - IF you read and understand. You can find happiness, love, contentment, and peace if you're open to new possibilities. The important thing is to be open minded.
Knowledge is power. And if you want to take your power back you'll need to carefully every article on this site. When you're done, read them again, over and over again. It will take time to undo the religious programming that has caused you much pain. As you read all the articles on this website, pray for wisdom and understanding. Psalms 3:8
Feel God's love for you like you've never felt before. We can leave God, but God never leaves us. Without the organization to interfere, it's just you and your Creator. Reach out to Him. He will shower you with love beyond all expectations.